Whether within business, employment, or in our personal lives, we all want to be happy and successful. Why is it that only a small percent of us actually feel happy or successful?
It turns out that it has 90% to do with our brains, our upbringing, and the way we have been taught to think … get good grades, work hard, make more money = happiness
… backwards to what we really should be doing and thinking! When your brain functions this way, you are actually pushing happiness and success out of reach – never being enough, needing more, resulting in unhappiness no matter what.
Another factor is the daily negativity our society exposes us to in news and even teachings – natural disasters, crimes, disease prevention, violence, etc. This constant exposure plays a big role in our daily thoughts and sets our mind on a more negative path.
Stress also has a big effect on our focus, mannerisms, attitude, and ultimately affects the impression others have of you. What we would consider to be ‘powerful’ people in society have high levels of testosterone and low levels of cortisol (the stress hormone), because they have the ability to manage their stress. As a result of stress management, these individuals tend to be more optimistic, think more abstract, and able to manage taking more risks.
When you are positive, your brain has a happiness advantage. Dopamine in your body increases when you are positive, which makes you happier, thus turning on important functions of your brain. When you are happy you perform significantly better with less ‘burn out’. Your creativity, energy level, focus, and intelligence rises. You are more resilient, find better secure jobs, have better productivity, and handle stress well.
So now the question is, ‘What things can I do in order to be happier and more successful?’ This ultimately could just be about your habits, state of mind, and how your brain processes and deals with our influential external world. Tiny ‘tweaks’ can lead to big changes … for the better.
There are a few things to consider and try, but this month let’s start trying this one …
Body language (non-verbals) can not only affect how we think and feel about others, but how we feel about ourselves. It has been said that we can actually trick ourselves into becoming happy and successful … keep make-believing until it becomes fact.
Confident, happy, successful people exude this through their postures by standing straight, showing mannerisms of openness, smiling, arms outstretched in times of celebration, etc.
With this in mind, we are going to test this concept. Every time you are about to be faced with a stressful situation (a difficult client, job interview, make a speech or presentation, etc.), in private you strike a ‘wonder woman pose’ for two minutes – body straight with hands on hips as a force to be reckoned with.
Perhaps even try this every morning before you leave for work, as you smile and say to yourself, ‘I am going to have a good productive day’. Positive body language effects your body chemistry and state of mind, attracts other positive reactions, which will lead to a higher happiness and success rate.
This isn’t going to make you a success over night so don’t give up! It takes practice and time to retrain your brain. I look forward to trying this myself, and look forward to hearing your comments and own personal outcomes.
Stay tuned for future posts with more ideas for you to try. HAPPY SUCCESS!!